Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

Written By: Wild Cactus Weddings Hair and Makeup Photo By: Scenic Vows

Don’t procrastinate. Set a goal to have your vows written about three week before the big day.

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Start by jotting down all the thoughts that pop into your head then refer back to your list while writing for a starting point.

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Take your time and write a few drafts. Make sure to write them a few days or even a week apart.

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You won’t be able to include everything so don’t try. Simply pick your few favorite things to focus on.

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Stay away from absolute words such as always and never. Don’t promise perfection. No one is perfect.

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Be fun and free. It's okay to be sentimental and even corny or cheesy. Just be heartfelt.

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Gain inspiration from book, songs, movies, and poems. They have a way of communicating deep feelings in simple ways.

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Practice, practice, practice. Read your vows out loud. Knowing them will help if you have any stage fright or wedding day jitters.

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Ask a friend you love and trust to listen and give feedback. Friends can be amazing sounding boards.

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Have a fresh copy of your vows to read at the ceremony. Think about the aesthetic.

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Remember that your vows are a gift to your partner. Surprise them and keep them a secret until the big day.

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Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

Don’t procrastinate. Set a goal to have your vows written about three week before the big day.

Start by jotting down all the thoughts that pop into your head then refer back to your list while writing for a starting point.

Take your time and write a few drafts. Make sure to write them a few days or even a week apart.

You won’t be able to include everything so don’t try. Simply pick your few favorite things to focus on.

Stay away from absolute words such as always and never. Don’t promise perfection. No one is perfect.

Be fun and free. It's okay to be sentimental and even corny or cheesy. Just be heartfelt.

Gain inspiration from book, songs, movies, and poems. They have a way of communicating deep feelings in simple ways.

Practice, practice, practice. Read your vows out loud. Knowing them will help if you have any stage fright or wedding day jitters.

Ask a friend you love and trust to listen and give feedback. Friends can be amazing sounding boards.

Have a fresh copy of your vows to read at the ceremony. Think about the aesthetic.

Remember that your vows are a gift to your partner. Surprise them and keep them a secret until the big day.

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