Writing Wedding Vows

Written By: Wild Cactus Weddings Hair and Makeup Photo By: Ashley and Justin Photography

Start by deciding how long your vows should be. You want your bow exchange to be fairly even in length as your significant other.

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Decide if you want to share inside jokes or not. Ask your partner how they feel about this and get on the same page.

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Agree with your partner about whether or not your vows will be more funny, emotional, sentimental or a mixture.

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Determine if your are going to include any traditional or religious vow in your personal vows to one another.

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Say I Love You Work Though it Together Personal Storie Make Promises Acknowledge Support

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It may seem obvious but make sure to say I Love You in your vows. It can be easy to get caught up forget those three words.

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Recognize and acknowledge that your marriage is going to have ups and downs. Verbalize that you are going to work through it together.

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Make your vows interesting by sharing a short personal story or two. Maybe about a personal or sappy moment or something odd and quirky.

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Vows are literally promises and a promise is a serious commitment. Make the promises you wish to make and intend to keep.

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As you have those close friends and/or family with you on your big day acknowledge them and the role they play in your life especially when its rough.

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Remember your vows are not a writing competition but rather a personal gift form your to the one you love.

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Writing Wedding Vows

Start by deciding how long your vows should be. You want your bow exchange to be fairly even in length as your significant other.

Decide if you want to share inside jokes or not. Ask your partner how they feel about this and get on the same page.

Agree with your partner about whether or not your vows will be more funny, emotional, sentimental or a mixture.

Determine if your are going to include any traditional or religious vow in your personal vows to one another.

Say I Love You Work Though it Together Personal Storie Make Promises Acknowledge Support

Wedding Vow Template:

It may seem obvious but make sure to say I Love You in your vows. It can be easy to get caught up forget those three words.

Recognize and acknowledge that your marriage is going to have ups and downs. Verbalize that you are going to work through it together.

Make your vows interesting by sharing a short personal story or two. Maybe about a personal or sappy moment or something odd and quirky.

Vows are literally promises and a promise is a serious commitment. Make the promises you wish to make and intend to keep.

As you have those close friends and/or family with you on your big day acknowledge them and the role they play in your life especially when its rough.

Remember your vows are not a writing competition but rather a personal gift form your to the one you love.

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